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Advice 3. How to increase the chances?

Formulate your requests
Imagine in details what you want to get. What country (countries) would you want to live? How do you imagine your future husband? Try to imagine his mental image. Take a clean piece of paper and write qualities that he should possess age, appearance, character, profession, economic conditions, family status and so on.

Divide a sheet into two columns and name one of them - "Necessary" and another one - "Preferable". Write your requests in these columns to your future partner - those, which play an important role for you and those, without you can live. Make up your final list. Now you know what you want and what you strive to.

I know that it sounds a little forced, but you must do it!
Usual objection against formulations requests in the written form: "I know what I want". When you write your requests, it means to have a compass and a map in your pocket, going to the walking tour. Your aim began to materialize. Searching without formulated requests can be compared with shopping without definite purpose.
Very often we bye a thing and only at home we reveal that it doesn't match any thing from our wardrobe. If you don't have formulated aim, any man can make an impression on you. But he will not be an appropriate partner.

Svetlana, 34 years (Ekaterinburg):
I didn't think what man I wanted to find. Of course, I wanted him to be strong, handsome, clever, well-off, but at the same time I thought, that such man didn't be interested in me (How I was mistaken!). When I got first letters, I was so glad that answered all men. One boy, who was 5 years younger than me, wrote a wonderful letter and though he didn't match me, we were in the correspondence with each other. He phoned me often and we chatted. He dreamed about our meeting. Though he was only a friend for me, I couldn't disappoint him. Another young man was of my age and our acquaintance began when he sent me a large, beautiful bunch of roses. I, of course, was impressed and couldn't answer him. He was lower than I was (my height is 170), not much to look at and he worked as a mechanic in a garage.
I have two higher educations and, of course, he is not a couple for me. But we began to correspond with each other.
I had a lot of men to write - 11 people. When in a couple of months there was a great number of new letters for me, I couldn't answer them. I had a lot of men, whom I began to write with before.
As a result of it, after my correspondence with my first men during half a year I understood that I couldn't imagine all these men in the capacity of my marriage partner. I looked through the letters again which I didn't answer and I found a lot of interesting and handsome men. I wrote to some men, but majority of them didn't answer and those, who answered, wrote, that have already made their choice. In other words, I answered too late. If I imagined what I really wanted I would avoid such situation.

When you imagine your aim, it's easier to achieve it. You may note at once, that a man doesn't match you and you may not spend your time on useless correspondence.

If a man didn't inform important information about himself, you will understand it at once and you can write him about it before you spend your time on him.

Conception: "I'll feel at once that it's my destiny" is good for those, who believe in a miracle. If you are clever enough to look for a partner abroad you will not be so silly to hope for this miracle. Miracles happen, but with your own help.

You cannot get anything that you don't know. When you have an aim, you are feeling that it's something real that you can achieve. Having an aim, you will have a wish to act, the aim stimulates your activity. Having clear image of Your Man, you will begin to act unconsciously that you will like him.

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